A Blog from Your Kaiser Permanente Pediatricians in Northern California

Your 6-Year-Old

Although your 6-year-old child may seem very grown up as they head off to a day at school or to a play date without you, they still need your support very much. They’ll be developing relationships with friends and teachers, but you are their main source of companionship and affection. They’ll still want to play with you too.

Your child is starting to understand the feelings of others. However, it is normal for them to still be mostly focused on themself. If something negative happens in their world (an accident, divorce, or illness) they will often blame themselves. They think everything centers on them. As their parent, you need to reassure them that things aren’t always their fault.

Most children by age 6:

  • Are starting to lose baby teeth and to develop their first molars.
  • Can catch a ball.
  • Can control their major muscles, have good balance, and enjoy running, jumping, skipping, and other forms of physical play.
  • Dress themselves; although they may still need some help with buttons or laces (and don’t count on well-matched outfits).

They have often learned to:

  • Count to and understand the concept of 10. (They can count – and eat – 10 pieces of candy.)
  • Write their names.
  • Recognize 13,000 words.
  • Speak with correct grammar most of the time.
  • Read some simple words.
  • Grasp the concept of time.

Their social skills are developing. Most 6-year-olds:

  • Can describe a favorite television show, movie, or story.
  • Still have fears typical of the preschool years (monsters, kidnappers, and large animals).
  • Like to be the “big kid” and take care of a younger child. (Let your child help you.)
  • Are developing a sense of humor. They like simple jokes, funny books, and rhymes. They will crack themselves up and keep you smiling, too.

Children usually progress in a natural, predictable sequence from one developmental milestone to the next. However, each child grows and gains skills at her own pace. Some may be advanced in one area, such as language, but slower in another, such as motor development. Enjoy watching your child learn and develop, but try not to worry too much. They are their own person with unique strengths and challenges. If you are concerned about your child’s development, talk to your pediatrician at your next well-check, make a video or telephone appointment, or send an email with your questions.

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