{"id":4034,"date":"2023-03-10T12:19:55","date_gmt":"2023-03-10T20:19:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kpthrivingfamilies.org\/pediatricsblog\/?p=4034"},"modified":"2023-08-08T08:26:01","modified_gmt":"2023-08-08T15:26:01","slug":"is-my-child-being-bullied","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kpthrivingfamilies.org\/pediatricsblog\/is-my-child-being-bullied\/","title":{"rendered":"Is My Child Being Bullied?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I still remember the setting \u2013 7<sup>th<\/sup> grade, at the bus stop after school. An 8<sup>th<\/sup> grader started calling me and my friend names over and over again. This went on for weeks. I don\u2019t remember why, when, or how it ended, but decades later, I still remember how it hurt. At the time, I wouldn\u2019t have said that I was being bullied, but looking back, that\u2019s exactly what the name-calling was.<\/p>\n<p>According to the website <a href=\"https:\/\/www.stopbullying.gov\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">StopBullying.gov<\/a>, bullying is \u201cunwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>To a child, it simply means being picked on again and again.<\/p>\n<p>Bullying can take many forms and occur in different places. It may happen at school, on the bus, or online, such as on social media. Some examples of bullying are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Making threats<\/li>\n<li>Embarrassing someone in front of other people<\/li>\n<li>Hitting, pushing, or kicking<\/li>\n<li>Taking someone\u2019s things<\/li>\n<li>Teasing or name-calling<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Cyberbullying is a form of bullying that takes place online\u2013in gaming rooms, on social media, or with direct messaging. Cyberbullying can be harder to recognize since it\u2019s happening on screens, rather than in person, where it might be seen or overheard.<\/p>\n<p>Parents can help prevent cyberbullying by being aware of what their kids are doing online. Most social media platforms do have ways to report concerns of bullying\u2013taking a screenshot of the concerning post can be helpful for kids or parents when making a report.<\/p>\n<p>If you have concerns about bullying at school, please contact your child\u2019s school administrators. Every state has laws regarding bullying and how the school should respond in these situations. Here is a link to helpful information on to how to talk to your child\u2019s school about bullying concerns: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacer.org\/bullying\/info\/questions-answered\/bullying-at-school.asp\">Questions Answered &#8211; National Bullying Prevention Center (pacer.org)<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Kids who are bullied show different signs including:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Emotional symptoms, such as depression and anxiety<\/li>\n<li>Physical symptoms, such as abdominal pain or headaches<\/li>\n<li>School avoidance or lower school achievement<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Kids who are viewed as \u201cdifferent\u201d are more likely to be the targets of bullying. Children and teens identifying as LGBTQI+, who have underlying medical conditions, different body types, or those who may be of a racial\/ethnic minority are unfortunately more likely to be targeted by their peers. Schools and parents can help create safe spaces by openly recognizing and celebrating diversity<em>.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>As a parent, you can help <a href=\"https:\/\/www.stopbullying.gov\/resources\/how-to-talk-about-bullying\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">talk with your child about bullying<\/a>. By having daily, open talks with your child of any age, they may be more likely to come to you with concerns if they witness bullying or are directly involved in it. Ask open-ended questions about their day, friends, school, and feelings. Encourage your kids to stand up for their friends and report to a teacher or adult if they see someone involved in bullying.<\/p>\n<h3>Resources For Parents:<\/h3>\n<h4>Stopbullying.gov<\/h4>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.stopbullying.gov\/sites\/default\/files\/documents\/Cyberbullying%20Guide%20Final%20508.pdf\">How to prevent Cyberbullying<\/a><\/p>\n<h4>Centers of Disease Control and Prevention<\/h4>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=64LNwrd0fHg#action=share\">\u201cBe Someone\u2019s Hero\u201d video<\/a><\/p>\n<h4>American Academy of Pediatrics<\/h4>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthychildren.org\/English\/safety-prevention\/at-play\/Pages\/Bullying-Its-Not-Ok.aspx\">HealthyChildren.org: Bullying: It\u2019s Not OK<\/a><\/p>\n<h4>Thriving Families<\/h4>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/kpthrivingfamilies.org\/pediatricsblog\/how-to-help-your-child-be-a-good-friend-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span class=\"post_title_editus\">How to Help Your Child Be a Good Friend<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"post_content_editus\"><a href=\"https:\/\/kpthrivingfamilies.org\/pediatricsblog\/6-steps-to-keep-kids-safe-online\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">6 Steps to Keep Kids Safe Online<\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As a parent, you can help talk with your child about bullying. By having daily, open talks with your child of any age, they may be more likely to come to you with concerns if they witness bullying or are directly involved in it. Ask open-ended questions about their day, friends, school, and feelings. Encourage your kids to stand up for their friends and report to a teacher or adult if they see someone involved in bullying.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":4053,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[91,86],"tags":[283,422,115,505,547],"class_list":["post-4034","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-safety","category-school","tag-back-to-school","tag-back-to-school-jitters","tag-bullying","tag-cyberbullying","tag-school","ages-all-school-ages"],"metadata":{"_edit_lock":["1691508362:8"],"_edit_last":["8"],"_thumbnail_id":["4053"],"bonfire_pageloader_display":[""],"slide_template":[""],"ase_chapter_enable_timeline":["off"],"video_format_choose":["youtube"],"_wpb_vc_js_status":["false"],"_yoast_wpseo_content_score":["30"],"_yoast_wpseo_estimated-reading-time-minutes":["3"],"_yoast_wpseo_wordproof_timestamp":[""],"qode_animate-page-title":["no"],"qode_show-page-title-text":["no"],"qode_show-page-title-image":["no"],"qode_show-sidebar":["default"],"qode_hide-featured-image":["no"],"_yoast_wpseo_primary_category":["454"],"_yoast_wpseo_primary_ages":["293"],"post_featured_author_bio":["I joined the pediatrics team at Kaiser Permanente South Sacramento to help kids thrive. 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